And this is how we did it: With a visual schedule. Leo's need to anticipate his day was even more important than usual in the unfamiliar though very cool environment of his grandparents' home. Scribbly torn post-it icons were fine -- once we told him what each one was, they were accepted into his personal canon.
Another centering item was this toy, the name of which I cannot remember but which kept Leelo and his sisters occupied for hours, and which I found at Target during a morning Las Vegas toy & materials & last minute gifts run with my friend Kate. Supervisor M had brought Leo a metal-pin version years ago, which he also loved, but he kept tweaking the pins -- and then it wouldn't work properly, and then we had drama. With this plastic version, you can pluck out any bent pins and carry on.
We did a decent job prepping and accommodating Leelo, I think. He was in such a good space that he not only enjoyed Christmas morning but posed for pictures with his sisters:
His grandparents, ever thoughtful, got him a very cool set of therapeutic stepping stones. Leelo loved them, and, having a puzzling sort of mind, immediately fit them together into balls:
Mali's Auntie Bree got her this fashion puppy. It comes with high heeled shoes and a tiara! Mali is enamored of her very L.A. gift from her very L.A., very smart auntie.
The kids spent a lot of time in the pool even though the air temperature was less than 15 degrees above freezing. We also made sure to get out and hike in Las Vegas's beautiful Red Rock Canyon. Mali was not thrilled, but then her legs are a lot shorter than everyone else's. (Can you see the Luxor in the skyline behind her?)
Iz and Leo are almost always enthusiastic hikers. And oversaturated ones! (Oversaturated photos are de rigeur for parenting blogging, yes?)
Leo also tolerated and even enjoyed dinner at a nice sushi restaurant and then at an even nicer -- nice meaning *white tablecloth* restaurant on Christmas Eve.
This made us cocky.
So ... we took Leo to the Las Vegas Strip.
And he did fine! How? Well, let's just say we're thankful for the ubiquity of a certain coffee purveyor and their complimentary long thin green objects.
We toured the new City Center (really cool, and I say that as someone who avoids both malls and casinos), then walked to New York New York so Iz could ride the rollercoaster. Our fun was multiplied by meeting up with our friend Skip (who is not a huge fan of rollercoasters but rode anyhow because Iz asked him to) and his sister Liza (who took this picture, in which I look LIKE HELL but that's neither her nor the camera's fault).
Fun in Las Vegas. Who'd've thunk? Not me, not a year ago when we thought family travel might never happen again.
Our only bonk was a big one: We didn't arrange for respite. Leo's need for 1:1 supervision is stepped up in environments that are not our home, which meant that Las Vegas was all me & Seymour, all the time. And Leo doesn't just require watching; he needs to be engaged. I think we managed to balance socializing with Seymour's very accommodating parents, getting our Xmas organized and deployed, and ensuring that the girls had a good time, but we were both exhausted by the time our visit was over (and I also had to work, which Seymour covered as best he could but which still meant a few late nights on top of long days).
We'll get respite next time. Right now we'll just savor Leo's success, and knowing that our family can travel again!
Most people will look at these photos and read your wrods and see a family that had a good holiday. I see and feel HOPE. I know I've said it before but it bears repeating: YOU give me so much hope that I can one day travel with Nik beyond the donfines of the grocery store (that's even a crap shoot most days) or scheduled appointments.ReplyDelete
I'm starting to let myself dream of a family trip one day. I never thought I would. Thank you! And thank you, Leo!
Leo can be a pretty inspiring kid. :) Some of his changes in travel-friendliness are medication, but I think a lot of them have to do with maturing. And, again, having a schedule to help lessen any anxiety. Also being in a place with so many distracting activities.ReplyDelete
Fingers crossed for your family.
so glad you ALL had a good time -- loved the photos.ReplyDelete
You certainly packed it in! I'm afraid we were very dull and boring and safe at home = so much easier. Hoping you have a splendiferous year ahead of you.ReplyDelete
That is SO COOL! If you happen to remember the name of the toy, or even if there's just a company name or something stamped on it anywhere, would you mind shooting me an e-mail? My kids LOVE those things but we had a similar issue with a metal-pin model and ours had to "disappear" in the name of everyone's sanity. Those things are good fun for NT kids and spectrum kids alike but I think the sensory input adds a layer of awesome and I'm thinking it would make a great addition to my arsenal of "things to keep in the car to make road trips doable without making anyone motion-sick like the DSes do." You're brave to have taken Leo to the strip; I think I might've hesitated because the potential for overstimulation is daunting, but then so is the potential for awesome and I'm so glad it ended up being awesome for him AND for you! Also I'm so pleased that the trip was a success. Awww...ReplyDelete
@maddy -- Our family travel requires no more than two hours on a plane -- not a minimum of ten. You get an exemption whenever you want one.ReplyDelete
@MFA Mama ask & ye shall receive! http://www.officeplayground.com/Pin-Art-Plastic-10x8-Yellow-P761.aspx
YAY! glad everything worked out good! I see possibilitys in the future!ReplyDelete
Congratulations! They all look very happy in the photos.ReplyDelete
I am so happy to know that there is hope of travelling with my aspie! Your trip sounded relatively stress free, which is awesome. :)ReplyDelete
I know what you mean about needing a vacation after your vacation. And somehow we keep going! Such big adjustments - how wonderful!ReplyDelete
We're feeling very fortunate and I hope the good fortune spread to you all as well.ReplyDelete
@Asperger Ninja -- we took lots of intermediate steps before flying -- local road trips, then longer local road trips, then local road trips with an overnight at a hotel, then a road trip to stay with my mom eight hours away. Those all went well, so we were ready to try the short flight. So grateful it went so well.
@Brenda We keep going how? I basically mainline caffeine; how about you?