Personal attacks don't bother me, I can take it, and am rather amused when someone passes judgment based on the .05% of my life that appears on this page. But I can't help worrying that nasty comments will bounce off me and hit a fragile or vulnerable reader, instead.
Think about what Mary Oliver wrote (in a book given by the luminous Jennifer):
Mostly, I want to be kindYou might be an asshole for a complicated knot of very good reasons. I understand that, too. But I won't let my comments be your shield. As I told Iz, when she yelled "idiots!" at a house that had a "Yes on Prop 8" sign on its lawn, "You should be yelling, 'Try Tolerance.'" Try being helpful. Being bitter and mean helps no one, and ultimately corrodes your own soul.
And nobody, of course, is kind
for a simple reason
And nobody gets out of it, having to
swim through the fires to stay in
And ask for help, if you need it. That's the main reason this site is here.