A Thought or Two
If someone says your use of your own damn mug for to-go coffee is a real "Earth First" approach, and you joke about having given up tree spiking now that you've got kids, perhaps it would have been better to ascertain first that the said someone didn't come from a displaced Oregon logging family.
If a friend commends the politeness of your children, and you joke that "Yes, the beatings are finally working," perhaps it would have been better to ascertain first whether or not your friend had an abusive childhood.
Just a couple of thoughts.
(On review, a couple of really wordy thoughts. Elmore Leonard, I apologize.)