I wrote this comment to my dear Jenijen, who was concerned that I didn't spill my own beans when she was spilling hers, last we chatted:
"Friends listen regardless of their own deal, not while waiting to talk about it. Friendship is neither a game of tragedy-trumping nor one of altruism. It is about being mindful of the people you care for."To have friends, you have to be a friend. That is the way it works. And I feel grateful to have so many good friends in my circle, grumpyfucked as I have been lately.