The Referral

I guess it's something when you tell your crusty, practical-minded GP why you'd like a referral for dealing with stress and depression, and she tears up. I have always adored Dr. Park, but until today didn't even know she had tear ducts.

She did give me the referral, and I did make the call.

The only reason I'm recording this here is to reiterate my belief that it is not only okay but important to ask for help, even if it personally makes you feel like you're weak and a failure. Especially if other people depend upon you and your strength. I'm not doing this for me.

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  1. Anonymous1:54 PM

    But it would be OK if you were.

    Heather near Atlanta

  2. I'm proud of you, Squid.

  3. I am glad you did it! I am hoping that it helps (and REALLY glad to see that you are taking time to take care of yourself).

  4. Good. But doing it for yourself is enough of a reason on it's own!

  5. Anonymous6:33 PM

    Good job!


  6. Brava! Maybe try to entertain the possibility that it would be OK to want to feel better for your own sake?

    I always fear that admitting the feelings will cause my whole life to explode, causing even greater chaos than the present mess, and that emotional upheaval is some kind of terrible moral failing...but less so now that I'm properly medicated ;)

    Remember, too, that referrals of this kind are tricky, and if you don't feel a connection, or if you feel judged, dismissed, or otherwise not taken care of -- try someone else until you get it right.

    Good luck & God bless, and thanks for reminding us that sometimes the bravest thing to do is to ask for help.

  7. Heather near Atlanta took the words right out of my mouth.

  8. Anonymous9:12 AM

    I'd net-hug you, but you might net-slap me back!

    Anyway, I'm thinking of you.

  9. Yes. No regrets, no over thinking. And yeah, it would be okay for you to do it for yourself. You deserve to be happy.

  10. Anonymous10:57 AM

    yay! I got real help for the first time about six months ago, and talking about it occasionally on my little blog has been almost as helpful as the therapy.


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